In my practice, over the years, I have noticed that may of my clients who are most successful in the workplace were parentified children who spend their lives trying to live up to impossible levels of perfectionism that leave them feeling perpetually insecure and overworked.
This article from The Harvard Business Review is the first I’ve seen explicitly addressing the way companies often take advantage of employee’s insecurities to help them achieve success. Work-life balance suffers.
“…these individuals are immensely attractive to elite professional organizations because they are entirely self-motivating and self-disciplining.”
Our lives and careers are filled with examples of inauthentic behavior. We feign interest in meetings or laugh at our boss’s bad jokes in order to be positive team members, build relationships, and accomplish shared goals. This is how we get along—and it is how some of us get ahead.
“A recent study links extended work availability with decreased calmness, mood, and energy levels. By looking at industries from technical services to nursing, the study evaluated the effects of being on-call — that is, not at work, but being expected to remain available by phone for questions or customer requests. Continue reading →