{"id":1040,"date":"2017-09-06T20:56:46","date_gmt":"2017-09-06T20:56:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.southlakeuniontherapy.com\/?p=1040"},"modified":"2021-02-26T04:52:23","modified_gmt":"2021-02-26T04:52:23","slug":"relationship-dependency-fact-not-choice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.southlakeuniontherapy.com\/relationship-dependency-fact-not-choice\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship dependency is a fact; not a choice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.southlakeuniontherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Holding-Hands-1-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"Relationship dependency South Lake Union Therapy\" class=\"wp-image-1041\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Numerous studies have shown that once we become attached to someone, the two of us form one physiological unit. &nbsp;Our partner regulates our blood pressure, our heart rate, our breathing, and the levels of hormones in our blood. &nbsp;We are not longer separate entities. &nbsp;<\/em><em>The emphasis on differentiation that is held by most of today's popular psychology approaches to adult relationships &nbsp;does not hold water from a biological perspective. &nbsp;Dependency is a fact; it is not a choice or a preference.&nbsp;<\/em>-Amir Levine M.D., and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.attachedthebook.com\/about-the-book\/\">\"Attached: The New Science or Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find-And Keep-Love.\"<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Numerous studies have shown that once we become attached to someone, the two of us form one physiological unit. &nbsp;Our partner regulates our blood pressure, our heart rate, our breathing, and the levels of hormones in our blood. &nbsp;We are not longer separate entities. &nbsp;The emphasis on differentiation that is held by most of today's [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":1725,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"link","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[142,82,73],"tags":[424,425,143,426,427,428,429,430,431,432,433,434,435,436,437,438,439,440,25],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v22.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Relationship dependency is a fact; not a choice &#8211; South Lake Union Therapy, Julie Wilson, MA, LMHC<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Numerous studies show that once we become attached to someone, the two of us form one physiological unit. 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