In our culture, the term naricissist is used often, informally and carries a pejorative connotation. Jari Chevalier’s podcast, Living Hero, examines narcissism from all angles and provides a more humanistic perspective on the clinical meaning of the word. Continue reading
Of all the books I have read recently, these are my favorites.
What I liked most about Coming Apart is the author’s framing of “failed” relationships not as failures but as developmental tools which promote growth and awareness.
I came across this article on shame by Robert Karen in the bibliography of a presentation on narcissistic wounding and the part it plays in addiction. In his article, Karen includes the historical and social aspects of shame as well as the individual experience. He draws a distinction between “normal” and “pathological” shame. “Pathological shame is an irrational sense of defectiveness, a feeling not of having crossed the boundary but of having been born there.”
This is Brene Brown’s follow-up to her TED Talk on the topic of vulnerability. Vulnerability, the bi-product of shame, is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. Continue reading
I came across this TED Talk awhile back while researching articles and videos on the topic of shame for a DBT group I lead. Continue reading
Unlike guilt, where one feels one has DONE something bad, shame is the feeling that one IS bad. Because shame is internalized and attached to our very way of being-in-the-world rather than being circumstantial we, as humans, have developed elaborate and deeply entrenched strategies aimed at minimizing its pain. Continue reading