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Breaking the Shame Cycle

shameBreaking the Shame Cycle

Unlike guilt, where one feels one has DONE something bad, shame is the feeling that one IS bad.  Because shame is internalized and attached to our very way of being-in-the-world rather than being circumstantial we, as humans, have developed elaborate and deeply entrenched strategies aimed at minimizing its pain. Continue reading

The Anger-Pain Connection

angerThe Anger-Pain Connection

Emotional pain can manifest itself in a variety of ways.  Some of the more familiar are depression, addiction, anxiety and anger.  I am addressing the topic of anger because, like addiction, it can mask shame, vulnerability and depression and, because it presents as the polar opposite of these issues, it is often viewed, and dealt with, as something else entirely. Continue reading