Category Archives: Workplace Stress and Trauma

All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership

I just started this book and already I’m in love with it.  It’s confirming everything I’ve felt my whole life about gender relations on the domestic front when children are added to the equation and how this affects every aspect of a woman’s life from self-care to career success.   Continue reading

E.M.D.R. Therapy. Does it Really Work?

E.M.D.R. (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) is just one of the many tools I use in my practice to more effectively help clients overcome issues such as traumatic events (both complex and single incident), negative thoughts, anxiety, and blocks preventing them from achieving their full potential. (Just to name a few.)  I’ve been seeing fairly dramatic results with some of my clients since incorporating this technique into my practice.

E.M.D.R. incorporates a good foundation of talk and trauma therapy protocols with relationship building and cognitive psychology It allows clients to use the natural healing powers of the brain to rewire distressing events.

This article in Scientific American does a good job of explaining both how E.M.D.R. works and some of the research behind the technique.

Gaslighting. Are you a Victim?

Gaslighting has become a hot topic lately, largely as a result of the current state of politics and the media.  We live in a time where facts have almost become irrelevant to the point that we are becoming disoriented on a national level.  What is playing out in this larger context is not an uncommon occurrence in many unhealthy relationships.   Continue reading

Insecurity and Achievement in the Workplace

In my practice, over the years, I have noticed that may of my clients who are most successful in the workplace were parentified children who spend their lives trying to live up to impossible levels of perfectionism that leave them feeling perpetually insecure and overworked.

This article from The Harvard Business Review is the first I’ve seen explicitly addressing the way companies often take advantage of employee’s insecurities to help them achieve success.  Work-life balance suffers.

“…these individuals are immensely attractive to elite professional organizations because they are entirely self-motivating and self-disciplining.”

‘Fake it ’til you make it’ is psychologically damaging

Fake it till you make itOur lives and careers are filled with examples of inauthentic behavior. We feign interest in meetings or laugh at our boss’s bad jokes in order to be positive team members, build relationships, and accomplish shared goals. This is how we get along—and it is how some of us get ahead.

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The Strain of Being On-Call

Strain of Being On Call“A recent study links extended work availability with decreased calmness, mood, and energy levels. By looking at industries from technical services to nursing, the study evaluated the effects of being on-call — that is, not at work, but being expected to remain available by phone for questions or customer requests. Continue reading

The Emotions Behind Procrastination

Procrastination South Lake Union TherapyProcrastination is a topic that comes up often in my practice.  Successful professionals well-versed in time management and theories of organization come in searching for answers and strategies to address delayed action in some key areas of their lives.   Continue reading

A Toxic Work World

A Toxic Work WorldA recent New York Times article explores how the current U.S. work culture reflects a greater balance in gender relations but has also created an untenable work-life imbalance as pressure to succeed and even just keep up is forcing both genders to neglect domestic life and caretaking functions that were once the nearly sole province of women.

“FOR many Americans, life has become all competition all the time. Workers across the socioeconomic spectrum, from hotel housekeepers to surgeons, have stories about toiling 12- to 16-hour days (often without overtime pay) and experiencing anxiety attacks and exhaustion.”

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The Real Cause of Addiction

Broken Heart The Real Cause of Addiction

This is one of the best articles on addiction I’ve read in a long time.  It echoes what I have seen and experienced around attachment and safety the lengths to which humans will go to find comfort in their absence.  Continue reading

Book Recommendations

Book Recommendations

Of all the books I have read recently, these are my favorites.

What I liked most about Coming Apart is the author’s framing of “failed” relationships not as failures but as developmental tools which promote growth and awareness.

Coming Apart South Lake Union Therapy

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