Gaslighting has become a hot topic lately, largely as a result of the current state of politics and the media. We live in a time where facts have almost become irrelevant to the point that we are becoming disoriented on a national level. What is playing out in this larger context is not an uncommon occurrence in many unhealthy relationships. Continue reading
In our culture, the term naricissist is used often, informally and carries a pejorative connotation. Jari Chevalier’s podcast, Living Hero, examines narcissism from all angles and provides a more humanistic perspective on the clinical meaning of the word. Continue reading
I get asked this question a lot and the answer is, “yes.” This is comforting to many and not such welcome news to others. In the psychological world, “screwed up” is better known as “neurotic.” Psychoanalyst Karen Horney described neurosis as “a distorted way of looking at the world and oneself, determined by compulsive needs rather than by a genuine interest in the world as it is.” Yep. Unfortunately we all do this to one degree or another, in one or more areas of our lives. The extent to which this occurs is in proportion to the severity of the mental and emotional suffering we experience. Continue reading
I came across this article on shame by Robert Karen in the bibliography of a presentation on narcissistic wounding and the part it plays in addiction. In his article, Karen includes the historical and social aspects of shame as well as the individual experience. He draws a distinction between “normal” and “pathological” shame. “Pathological shame is an irrational sense of defectiveness, a feeling not of having crossed the boundary but of having been born there.”
This is Brene Brown’s follow-up to her TED Talk on the topic of vulnerability. Vulnerability, the bi-product of shame, is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change. Continue reading
“Vanity and narcissism- the compulsive need to be admired and praised- undermines one’s courage, for one then fights on someone else’s conviction rather than one’s own.”- Rollo May
Self-esteem, sense-of-self and ego are all terms used to describe oneself as distinct from the world and others. It is the opinion a person has about themselves.
Psychological health hinges on a healthy sense of self which is formed in infancy and early childhood. When all parts of ourselves are accepted during this period of development, not just the ones prized by society or our culture we, in turn, develop the ability to accept all aspects of ourselves and to tolerate our imperfections. Continue reading